Duct Tape – A Dads Tool
DUCT TAPE = Dads Using Christ’s Teaching to Align, Prepare & Equip! Duct tape is fun and both Dads and kids love it. It sticks, so you can fix anything, and it doesn’t hurt when you peel it off.
Here’s how you can apply DUCT TAPE to help you be a better father.
D = Discipline: God wants fathers to be disciplined in their discipline. God directed discipline is designed to lovingly correct a wrong behavior or thought process. Discipline without instruction is merely doling out punishment after punishment. Instead, kids need clear instruction about the expectations and consequences of disobedience to avoid a pattern of defiance. Punishment, when needed, must be age appropriate and administered with wisdom, never in anger. Consistency is key; your child will grow to trust you, and your example will help them learn the importance of a disciplined lifestyle.
Reference Proverbs 10:17 Whoever heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores correction leads others astray.
U = Understanding: The greatest teachable moments we have as fathers are when our kids share with us what they are thinking. If we don’t know what they are thinking, how we can instruct and correct any erroneous thoughts running through their little brains? When we listen, ask questions and seek to understand, we are sure to uncover areas where we can offer Godly influence and speak truth about the matter.
Reference Proverbs 17:27 The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.
C= Compassion: We are not perfect, and we shouldn’t expect our kids to be perfect. The enemy of great is perfect, so let’s strive for greatness, not perfection. Our kids learn how to treat others by the way we treat them. We need to show them the living example of Christ and we can do this by putting others first and showing concern for others. Speak truthfully while seeking to encourage, because what you say affects what they do. Quick tempered words spoken to your child can quickly lead to a path of rebellion.
Reference Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as God forgave you.
T= Tolerance: Tolerance or patience doesn’t come naturally to many of us. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves to allow our kids to be kids. Unrealistic expectations, sometimes based on our own childhood, can hurt our children. When we lose control over petty accidents or an overabundance of energy, we may forfeit what we want most; a close, loving relationship with our children. If you slip up, be quick to ask for God’s forgiveness. And if you need to ask your child for forgiveness, let them know that you are sorry for “insert your action/behaviour” and allow them to share their feelings. Your willingness to practice what you preach is the best lesson they can learn.
Remember, use your DUCT TAPE often, use it wisely and always keep it on hand.
Once, a father overheard his son praying, “Dear God, make me a man just like my Daddy.” Later that night, the father prayed, “Dear God, make me the kind of man my son wants and needs.”